Simply by asking her kids at dinner what they’re grateful for, Perell and her family “rehearse Thanksgiving 364 days a year.”īehavioral psychologists say that we have to be intentional about expressing gratitude because we are hardwired to do the opposite. Perell suggests that expressions of gratitude shouldn’t be reserved for just one day a year. On Thursday, many families across America will go around the table and express their gratitude for the people and events in their lives. You will be amazed by how this exercise improves your mood, attitude, and mindset. Or try balancing your complaint with three positive remarks. Every time you have the urge to complain, say something positive instead. You can, however, recognize when you engage in it excessively. Psychologists say complaining serves a purpose because it offers us some measure of relief from stress when others sympathize with our plight and validate our concerns.Ĭomplaining is a form of communication that’s as old as language itself, so you can’t tell someone to just stop complaining. Well, they don’t like to be around you, either, when you complain excessively.Ĭuring yourself of this ailment takes a great deal of self-awareness. Complaining turns into a spiral, a loop of negativity that drains your energy and doesn’t win you any friends. You probably don’t like to hang around constant complainers. This is easier said than done, but Perell says it’s important to be aware of just how much we complain throughout the day. Optimize your social media consumption for peak performance. Just as healthy food fuels our bodies, be intentional about the information you feed your mind because every thought you take in will impact your performance. Scrolling aimlessly is a major distraction for anyone who must remain completely focused on the business they’re starting. It’s now well-known that the algorithms powering our favorite social media apps are intended to keep us hooked to the platforms. Don’t let your inner voice be one of them. If you have an idea for a business, you’ll find plenty of critics.